Pain

One day at a time

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If you read my previous blog post you will know that my life has not been all that fantastic as of late. It has been almost a month and a half now since we broke up and I’m not going to say that I’m doing 100%. It is a struggle but I’m hanging on, moving one day at a time.

These are both amazingly strong women and I definitely consider them both to be role models. I wish someday I will touch somebody else’s life like they have touched mine. Sometimes God sends angels in the most bizarre packages.

Forgiveness.

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I have recently been dealing alot with forgiveness and pondering what it means to really, truely forgive. Whether “forgive and forget” is the best way to deal with problems; what to say when someone says “I’m sorry” off the fly for something they do not really need to be sorry for. What does “I’m sorry” mean anyway? Why do we say it? This week I asked my friends on facebook to give me their thoughts and meditations on forgivness.

This is the feedback I got:

One person said: 
“ I don’t know who this is quoted from. I found it the other day though, and I really like it. “Anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes a person with character to forgive. When you forgive, you release yourself from a painful burden. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was okay, and it doesn’t mean that person should still be welcome in your life. It just means you have made peace with the pain, and are ready to let it go. “


Another posted a link to a YouTube video:
Forgiveness


Someone wrote:
“Wilma Derksen’s daughter was abducted and murdered in 1984, and Wilma has spent the last 27 years learning what it means to forgive. Above, I’ve posted a recent statement she made in regards to the new crime bill.”
Statement on Bill C-10 by Wilma Derksen

My views on forgiveness:
Forgiving means to not expect something back, to give up the debt that is owed you. Forgive and forget is inaccurate. You can forgive and still grieve, but once you forgive you no longer expect that person to repay you. God gave us forgiveness through His Son. Jesus payed our debt to God and his death continues to pay that debt.
Picture the person that cares about you the most, whoever it is. Picture them in your mind. Hear them say to you, “I will give my life for you, I will die so that you can continue to live”. Powerful right?
Forgiving doesn’t mean that your pushing away your pain. Pain is real, and you will never forget what happened.